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…It’s a movie, and you can watch it for free on youtube.

I’m sure your marriage/relationship will not remain the same afterwards.

PS: I hope you all had lovely Christmas celebrations (and didn’t forget the reason for the season?)…I wish you a joyful and wonderful new year 2011.

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Yes, the wedding took place in Darlington, UK, last Saturday, 20 March, 2010, and was a huge success, all thanks to God.

The couple are now enjoying their honeymoon in a very lovely location, but have squeezed out time to add a few pictures to their wedding website…

For your viewing delight, check out; http://www.kemmyandkayode.com

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Happy new year ALL! Welcome to 2010…I pray that this year brings you all increase, and a double reward for your labour.

How are you all doing?

Just a quick note to say that my sister’s engagement in Naija was glorious (a.k.a. it went veeeeeery well…lol) and we are soooooo looking forward to the March UK wedding…

The engagement photos have been aded to their WEBSITE…check them out…and many many thanks for your greetings, prayers, and love…Kemi and Kayode are very grateful to y’all, and so am I…

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feathers cake

Hi People

How’s everyone doing? I’ve missed you all, really.

Hubby and I went on a week’s holiday to the North of England (our very first time up  North) to see my sister and her fiancé. We went to Darlington precisely, but also  visited Bradford (where I got my hair done…it’s a lovely flowing, curly weave) and Newcastle

Anyway, back to the main matter…my younger sister is getting married. Yipee! lol…The Church wedding is here in the UK in March 2010, while the engagement ceremony (traditional marriage) is in Nigeria in December. Further details are available on their lovely wedding website. Check it out HERE.

By the way, this sister of mine has been witholding sharing the many wonderful things God has done in her life here, on our Testimony Corner…please help me beg her to come and share them oh…lol.

PS; did you guys notice the lovely “feathered cake” in the pic?

See u all later. No, sooner, not later.


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Many thanks to all the lovely people who read the last post, and especially to all who commented…rather than responding to your comments individually, I thought I should make it a new post, as there were several wonderful responses…

From the readers’ comments, I picked out a general theme; It’s neither easier to love, nor to submit…

I particularly liked (or was interested in) the views expressed below…

  • If a man loves his wife, it makes it easier for her to submit (Tigeress)
  • Nobody is supposed to wait for the other person to do his/her part before he/she does their own part (Simeone)
  • It’s not a competition in marriage, no one is trying to outdo the other, so i would say i don’t think either party has it easier or more difficult (WriteFreak)
  • It’s easy for ladies to love, but hard for us to submit, and it’s easy for a man to respect, but hard for him to love (O’dee)
  • Love is instinctual/instinctive, and shouldn’t take much work as it should come naturally. Submission, at least to me, is not instinctive (SSD)
  • If a man truly loves you, you will have no problems submitting to him because you trust him and you know he has your best interest at heart (Bumight)

And from Naijagirl, whose comment on the Proverbs 31 Woman post, provoked this discussion;

  • I came to the conclusion that love is a very huge responsibility and when push comes to shove, I would think Love is more tasking than submission…The job description for love consist of a whole bunch of things, and before you say marriage is no job, I would like to disagree and say, every relationship is a job…
  • In any case, Loving and submitting are both huge responsibilities. It takes something to be able to carry out the requirements written down for love, just as it takes something to be able to submit (in every thing) to your husband. Is it any wonder why the bible chose love for men and submission for women?

My favourite response was that made by Remi, which I have re-produced in it’s entirety (without editing) below;

“Hmm, I don’t believe anyone (husband or wife) have it easier in marriage. Firstly, the business of the Husband is how to love is wife in totallity, and the business of the wife is how to love her husband in totality.

I agree with Simeone, one party should not wait for the other before they live out their purpose in the marriage. A woman should not wait for her husband to show her love before she loves him or starts or continues her role as a helper, or before she submits.

The husband should not wait for the woman to help him or for all conditions to be perfect to love her.

Both are one, so no one has it easier. It might seem so on the outside but it is not so. Whatever affects the husband, will eventually affect the wife, and the other way round too. If the wife says it is easier to submit to her husband only when He loves her, then what happens in the times she does not submit, because she cannot sense love? The husband will suffer things such as neglect, lack of feeling loved and much more. So really, none will (in such an example) have it easier than the other, in the marriage…”

Need I say more people?

Ok, I’ll just wrap this up quickly by adding that I also do not think that either husband or wife has it easier in marriage…God, the all-knowing, definitely has His reasons for assigning the major duty of love to husbands, and that of submission to wives…

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. (Eph 5:22,25)

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, for that is what you should do as Christians. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. (Col 3:18-19)

In the same way you wives must submit yourselves to your husbands, so that if any of them do not believe God’s word, your conduct will win them over to believe. It will not be necessary for you to say a word…(1Pe 3:1)

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I was just going through the Proverbs 31 Woman post, and I stumbled upon Naijagirl‘s comments, a part of which reads like this;

I have been involved in debates where some men claim “loving your wife” is more tasking than “submitting to your husband”…

I find that argument rather intriguing, and would like to know what you all think…

Is it really more daunting to “love one’s wife” than it is to “submit to one’s husband”?

Comments, comments, comments…


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Wife or Husband; Who Has it Easier? Part II

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This is my 50th post people (Yaaaaay!) and it’s also my hubby’s birthday today (double yaaaaay!)…thanks to all those who read Anoda Phase…for your support, encouragement, comments, suggestions, etc. which definitely keep me going, and to my Dearest Papa God, for inspiraton, ideas, strength, etc. to carry on…

bday3As you would have made out from the title, this post is dedicated to my hubby, as he adds another year today; I love you babe…

I remember very vividly, the first day we met…It was at one of the Glo offices in Abuja, where incidentally, we were both visiting a mutual friend.

We exchanged numbers, and that was all there was to it as far as I was concerned…or so I thought…until you started to call…frequently…and I began anticipating those late night calls that lasted several hours, usually…Somehow, we got very close…and before I could say Jack Robinson, you had proposed…of course, I said yes, even though I was shocked…

It’s been eighteen (18) months now, and all I can say is thank you for being there for me, as a Husband/Lover/Best friend/Confidant/Father/Brother/Spiritual Covering, etc…To say that it’s been a bed of roses all the way would be an untruth, but I thank God that at those times when the roses seemed to be withering, He gave us renewed grace, strength, and love, to lay on fresh roses…


I thank God for who you are, where you are now, and where I’m sure you are going to…I want you to know that I’m proud of the man that you are, and of your achievements…and I’ll hold my head up high wherever, declaring that I’m your one and only woman!

As you celebrate a new year, starting today, I pray that the good Lord that we both serve and trust, would look upon you with renewed mercy and goodness, favour and grace, love and kindness, and also lay His right hand upon you to bless you…

He will exult your horn, and whatever you lay your hands upon shall prosper and multiply…the Lord will cause you to shine, and men shall come to your light…daily, He will send men to help you, and you shall never know lack…

The Lord God Almighty shall anoint you with fresh oil, fresh insight, fresh ideas…you shall accomplish ALL that you want to, through Christ who strengthens you…it shall be a glorious new beginning for you my darling…just key in…

I know this is short, and even though I’m practically bursting with words to say/write, I’ll leave it here…also, I know I can’t afford to get you the kind of gift that you truly deserve now, but very soon my love, veeeeery soon…for now, let me just say I love you, and here’s wishing A VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my sugar, my honey, my tender lover…Olaseye Fagbongbe!


Mmmmmmmwwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh…(a very long kiss…lol)…

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