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I know you’d rather have both – or, would you?

I think I’d rather have fortune, and live a private, privileged life.

But that’s just my opinion.


So if YOU had to choose between the two, which would it be – Fame or Fortune? And why?

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Lack of faith?

Common sense?


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A few days ago I saw a movie in which a man hit (beat) his wife in front of their 4 or 5 year old daughter, and she died as a result. A few days later, after being beaten, and crying bitterly, the little girl walks up to her dad and asks “daddy why do you hate me so much? You beat mummy and she died, now you are beating me too…even when I’m hungry, you still beat me”

That reminds me of another movie I saw, probably a few years ago. There, a man who had the habit of hitting his wife, was beating her again, when he was hit on the head with a ceramic object, by their 7 year old boy who had simply had enough of daddy hurting mummy…The man died.

So, what’s to be done? Stand aloof and watch helplessly as dad hits mum (as in the little girl’s case) or attempt to defend mum, even if dad gets hurt or dies in the process (as in the boy’s case)?

Ok, forget about kids for a second…they’re only kids aren’t they?

As an ADULT, what would you do if your dad hit your mum…consistently…?

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Many thanks to all the lovely people who read the last post, and especially to all who commented…rather than responding to your comments individually, I thought I should make it a new post, as there were several wonderful responses…

From the readers’ comments, I picked out a general theme; It’s neither easier to love, nor to submit…

I particularly liked (or was interested in) the views expressed below…

  • If a man loves his wife, it makes it easier for her to submit (Tigeress)
  • Nobody is supposed to wait for the other person to do his/her part before he/she does their own part (Simeone)
  • It’s not a competition in marriage, no one is trying to outdo the other, so i would say i don’t think either party has it easier or more difficult (WriteFreak)
  • It’s easy for ladies to love, but hard for us to submit, and it’s easy for a man to respect, but hard for him to love (O’dee)
  • Love is instinctual/instinctive, and shouldn’t take much work as it should come naturally. Submission, at least to me, is not instinctive (SSD)
  • If a man truly loves you, you will have no problems submitting to him because you trust him and you know he has your best interest at heart (Bumight)

And from Naijagirl, whose comment on the Proverbs 31 Woman post, provoked this discussion;

  • I came to the conclusion that love is a very huge responsibility and when push comes to shove, I would think Love is more tasking than submission…The job description for love consist of a whole bunch of things, and before you say marriage is no job, I would like to disagree and say, every relationship is a job…
  • In any case, Loving and submitting are both huge responsibilities. It takes something to be able to carry out the requirements written down for love, just as it takes something to be able to submit (in every thing) to your husband. Is it any wonder why the bible chose love for men and submission for women?

My favourite response was that made by Remi, which I have re-produced in it’s entirety (without editing) below;

“Hmm, I don’t believe anyone (husband or wife) have it easier in marriage. Firstly, the business of the Husband is how to love is wife in totallity, and the business of the wife is how to love her husband in totality.

I agree with Simeone, one party should not wait for the other before they live out their purpose in the marriage. A woman should not wait for her husband to show her love before she loves him or starts or continues her role as a helper, or before she submits.

The husband should not wait for the woman to help him or for all conditions to be perfect to love her.

Both are one, so no one has it easier. It might seem so on the outside but it is not so. Whatever affects the husband, will eventually affect the wife, and the other way round too. If the wife says it is easier to submit to her husband only when He loves her, then what happens in the times she does not submit, because she cannot sense love? The husband will suffer things such as neglect, lack of feeling loved and much more. So really, none will (in such an example) have it easier than the other, in the marriage…”

Need I say more people?

Ok, I’ll just wrap this up quickly by adding that I also do not think that either husband or wife has it easier in marriage…God, the all-knowing, definitely has His reasons for assigning the major duty of love to husbands, and that of submission to wives…

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. (Eph 5:22,25)

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, for that is what you should do as Christians. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. (Col 3:18-19)

In the same way you wives must submit yourselves to your husbands, so that if any of them do not believe God’s word, your conduct will win them over to believe. It will not be necessary for you to say a word…(1Pe 3:1)

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I was just going through the Proverbs 31 Woman post, and I stumbled upon Naijagirl‘s comments, a part of which reads like this;

I have been involved in debates where some men claim “loving your wife” is more tasking than “submitting to your husband”…

I find that argument rather intriguing, and would like to know what you all think…

Is it really more daunting to “love one’s wife” than it is to “submit to one’s husband”?

Comments, comments, comments…


Also Read;

Wife or Husband; Who Has it Easier? Part II

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Thanks to everyone who sent birthday wishes to hubby yesterday, via my blog, his blog, our fb pages, email, text messages, and calls…God bless every one of you…thanks also for your lovely comments on my last post…you all deserve the “mmwwaahh” that ended the post (but of course not of the variety that I gave hubby…lol).

I’m rounding off on the book “light His Fire” by Ellen Kreidman, and she says that to determine if you are being true to yourself, you need to anwer these two questions;

  • If you weren’t getting paid for what you are doing now, would you continue to do it?

  • If you had only one year to live, would you continue to do what you are doing now?

Well, would you?

Also, as I was rummaging through the blogosphere last week, I found several blogs/posts that touched me; some for their hilarity, like this one, where the lady was talking about growing up in a Church environment, and with a Pastor dad…be sure to read the comments too as there are more hilarious stories shared by the commenters…

On the same blog, I came accross the following short, but deeply touching and educative presentation, which was borne out of a true story which the blog author herself witnessed…

Linda Ikeji put up a post with some alarming pictures, which supposedly illustrate the amount of sugar contained in some of the food we eat…guys, if this is real, then we’ve got to reaaaaaaly watch what we eat…a word, they say…

Have a fabulous week all.


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Yeah! 5 whole days! I had 5 whole days of relaxed fun, starting Saturday, up until yesterday, Wednesday…How? Well, hubby took the first three days of the week off from work, and we had a mini-blast…

Saturday started with hubby bringing me breakfast in bed…later in the day, we went to a family park not too far from home, and strolled hand-in-hand as we admired the greenery, the water and the folks fishing, the different kinds of birds and people feeding them, the children having serious fun and being lovingly watched over by their parents and guardians, dogs and their trainers doing incredible routines, boys of all ages on their skates and bikes doing all sorts of acrobatic displays and stunts…It really was beautiful…a few sights below…








Sunday service was amazing…we had the incredible Terry Law come minister to us @ Elim, on the subject of HOPE, and it was truly awesome to hear from him and watch his DVD, and see the marvelous things that God is doing through his ministry in places that he describes as “the closed countries of the world” i.e. countries that are hostile and/or resistant to christians and christianity…just google up his name and you’d be amazed at the information you uncover…Sunday dinner was a lovely Nandos take-out…

Monday; we stayed indoors all day…hubby did the garden, while I did some cooking, after which, we just had fun by ourselves, playing games and watching movies (Nigerian home videos, if you know me well…lol)…

On Tuesday, hubby got some good, well deserved hours of sleep, while I ransacked the w.w.w. for new blogs, and happily stalked the older, more familiar ones…Tuesday evening was “Much More”, the mid-week service @ my Church, and we heard more on HOPE…

On Wednesday, hubby and I headed out to the shopping mall…House of Fraser (HOF) and Debenhams were offering a massive 50% off SALE, and we wanted to check them out…4 hours later, and with bags from Hawes & Curtis @ HOF, H&M, Dorothy Perkins, and New Look, hubby and I were exhausted and headed home…I ended up with a mild headache and decided to sleep it off, waking up hours later, having missed my drama rehearsals (sorry Marie)…

Hubby went back to work today and I had time to do some house cleaning…this evening, a Mary Kay consultant came to my home to give a friend and I a presentation, which included beauty and skin care tips, as well as practical use/feel of the products, i.e. we got to try out a range of products from foundation and powder, to lip mask and balm, lip liner and gloss, mascara, the microdermabrasion set, satin hands,etc…and as the hostess for the day, I got to pick a free gift…I chose a Mary Kay lengthening mascara…Overall, it was a fun time and I really learnt a lot from the opportunity, even though I felt that most of the products were rather expensive (although thankfully, you are at liberty to NOT purchase any product)…I stumbled upon the offer @ this blog, which the Consultant (Ola or Mrs Abbey) told me today, is her daughter’s…She does cover the whole of the UK, so if you’d love some pampering, why not give her a call?

On a final note, I came across this very deep question on FaceBook, and as usual, I thought to put it to you and know what you think/make of it…

If your life was a publicly quoted Company, would you buy shares in it?



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